Throughout this, I’ve put in a few links to interesting
articles. I’d suggest you read them as you read this – they either explain
things better than I can, put things in context or give more information. I also
haven’t included sources for everything – but a quick google should suffice.
A growing number of people can see why these are distasteful
at the very least, although some people can’t resist labeling those who
complain as killjoys or the ‘PC police’. But the problem is that it is a very *real*
problem for many people. 1 in 4 people in the UK will experience some form of
mental health condition in any given year – and up to 50% of the world's population
will be affected at some point in their lifetime. However, studies with
accurate figures are hard to come by, partly because many sufferers go
unrecorded and untreated because of the stigma that comes attached with it.
So, back to the present day and why I am writing this post.
I must admit, whilst I have always thought that the costumes satirising mental
health are frankly, just fairly disgusting, I haven’t ever blogged about it. In
fact, I’ve never blogged about mental health on its own before, and as you may notice, I
haven’t blogged for a while (see note at bottom if you haven't seen me on here for a while!). So why am I writing now?
Last night I was left in what I can only describe as a state of shock and
sadness at two of the Halloween costumes I saw. One was being worn by a student
who walked through my college dining room to get to the bar. He was dressed as
a zombie and had a noose around his neck. A suicide victim. I don’t know any more
details – presumably there was some *hilarious* story behind it. That lowered
my mood somewhat as I returned from dinner to finish some work and watch
“The Nightmare Before Christmas” in celebration of this, usually fun, holiday.
However, I then saw that both a Durham
student and a good old friend who I haven’t been in regular contact with for
a while had both decided to dress as ‘Bald Britney’ for Halloween.
For those of you who don’t know, as with many of the celebrities those of us
born in the 90’s grew up with, Britney Spears suffered a breakdown in
2007/2008. This was thanks to drug addictions and other mental health issues that
lead to her shaving her hair off, attacking paparazzi with an umbrella when
they wouldn’t leave her alone, losing custody of her children and being
forcibly removed to a psychiatric hospital. To this day she remains under a
‘conservatorship, which gives her father legal control over her to
ensure her well being as she is deemed incapable of looking after herself. Of course,
Britney is not the only child star to succumb to such troubles, just a few of
the former child stars I know of to suffer from addiction and other mental
health problems include Macaulay Culkin (of Home Alone fame), Linsay Lohan,
Amanda Bynes, Drew Barrymore and Demi Lovato. Each of these had to face a
crisis – and all in the public eye.
So, what do we do? We mock them, we laugh at them, we shake
our heads at the innocent child stars “gone bad”. We blame the culture we live
in – but do we try to understand and provide support? Most of the media
certainly doesn’t, at least not at this stage. So, when I saw these costumes of
‘bald Britney’ (neither of them frankly even very original anyway – this has
been done thousands of times) I was upset. I was most upset to see a friend who
I know is a lovely, caring person wearing it, and to see other equally lovely
caring people ‘liking’ it and joining in on the ‘joke’.
I know what it feels like to feel like you are literally
going ‘crazy’ – I am assuming anyone who has ever had a panic attack will be
able to tell you the first time they had one was terrifying as they probably
had no idea what was going on. I’ve suffered from anxiety (acute, mostly related
to exams and fear of failure), depression (general, moderate) and panic attacks
as physical manifestations of these. I’ve had help and thankfully am a lot
better now – I’m in a much much much better place thanks to the support I’ve
received. But, for someone suffering with these or any other mental health
condition, until you receive help you can feel entirely alone. It’s hard to
seek help, partly as you don’t necessarily want to admit you need help to
yourself, let alone anyone else. And it doesn’t help that society so often
portrays mental illness in such a negative way.
To satirise mental health is not helpful. It's singling out an individual undergoing a crisis
as worthy of parody, and by reflection trivialising the crisis as a whole
(kudos must go to a friend of mine for summing it up so eloquently). The photo
I saw was accompanied by the phrase “If Britney can make it through 2007, you can make it through
today” – a popular meme that I will not repost here which is printed on T
shirts, mugs and used as a general ‘inspirational’ slogan. Some people may find
it helpful. In fact, I assume other people with mental health problems have
possibly found the idea helpful. However if we consider the real meaning behind
it, perhaps we’ll all be able to see what a problem this attitude towards
mental illness brings.
Firstly, a
quick glance at google confirms people often use this as a happy “Wooo, go me!”
statement – people who haven’t had a coffee that morning, people at the gym,
people fed up that it’s not the weekend yet. Can anyone *not* see the problem
here first of all? Is there anyone that actually really wants to compare some
fairly trivial ‘trials’ of life to someone undergoing a complete breakdown? I,
as much as anyone who gains their knowledge through the internet, don’t know
the full story of Britney’s journey – but I’m pretty sure she had to go through
a lot more pain and suffering trying to recover than someone who didn’t get
their coffee until later than they'd have liked. If a loved one was
going through the same thing, would you, to their face, compare your lives
saying, “Well, if you got through months worth of rehab for substance abuse, I
can make it through to the weekend despite the fact it’s *only* Wednesday”? Would
you do it if someone was suffering from any other type of illness/disability?
“Wow, you managed to survive meningitis. I’m sure I can get through my workout
today”. As a quick “I can do this”, “life could be worse” statement, you can
see why people don’t necessarily appreciate the full impact of what they’re
saying. To me, far from being inspirational, it’s fairly tragic.
Because the end of this story is so often tragic.
What are we really saying when we proclaim that we can get through whatever
because Britney “made it through”? Other sources of the meme actually use the
phrase “Britney survived”. And this is really what it comes down to – are we
really happy using this statement that basically says we can achieve something
because someone who was suffering so much survived? That because she ended up in recovery
and has improved so is no longer a ‘crazy figure’ to be mocked in the media
constantly we should take this as an inspiration to get through our, probably actually very average day? That because she didn’t commit suicide this is inspirational? Note, it is unclear whether or not she has attempted suicide - but the media has reported on it with ghoulish glee before. Some have accused her of "exploiting suicide". Others have suggested that this was her "inevitable rehab suicide attempt" and said that we could never expect "just how mental her suicide attempt would be". I don't know if it's true. All I know is that in my opinion, no matter how public someone's life if, no matter how amusing you personally find someone's mental state - suicide should not be treated as a joke.
Let’s remember
folks, the real cost of mental health conditions. They cost people both periods
of time in their lives spent in immense pain – and for some people, their actual entire lives.
What makes it ok for us to use statements about Britney in a light hearted,
jokey, ‘inspirational’ way, but not for us to say “If Amy Whinehouse made it
through 6 whole years of mental health issues and substance abuse (before she
died from an alcoholic overdose), you can do x”? Is the fact Britney recovered
really some way of making us able to describe what she went through any less of a problem? Thinking
about celebrities, we’re all now acutely aware of the many celebrities that have lost their lives due to severe mental health problems through suicide and overdoses. Philip Hoffman, Kurt
Cobain, Marilyn Monroe (who it is said, stated “I think I’m going crazy, and I
don’t want to live”). And some familiar faces from our childhoods, Robin
Williams and Mark Speight (presenter of SMart) – the latter who died in 2008,
so in the same timeframe as Britney was receiving treatment. That’s just to
name a few. Thoughts still go to their families and friends, who to this day
must be feeling the immense loss of these talented individuals.
What does it
take for a celebrity breakdown to go from something to ridicule to something to
view as a tragedy? Do people really need to die before we recognise the
suffering they are/were going through? Does it depend on the person and how much of
a target we can make them? Or do we need to rethink our attitude towards mental
health? I’m sure no one out there who dressed in any sort of similar costume
really finds this that funny. So, maybe we all need to rethink how we treat
mental illness and stop the stigma. If you still really want to go to a
Halloween party dressed as a mentally ill person: maybe you should make it more
accurate. See this Guardian article for ideas – maybe click on the links in it
too for some more information (they’re all pretty good).
If you still want to wear a straight jacket or dress up in a really cliched way as someone
having a breakdown – go ahead. I won’t stop you. We live in a free society.
I won’t even be ‘offended’. I, and many others, might be upset and horrified at
your lack of thought and the fact you see this as fun, but I won’t stop you. I do have a right to express my own
view on it though. And I’d hope you might take it on board (again, no
pressure). Note, not even everyone who has suffered/is suffering with a mental health condition will even find these costumes at the very least insensitive.
That doesn't make it ok though as there are thousands more who probably won't find it funny, who probably will note that this is likely to cause upset and at the very least continues to normalise how we often treat mental health conditions in the media.
Halloween is a
fun time. There are thousands of great costumes you could wear: in the last
few years I have variously been to events as the Grey Lady of Hogwarts, a parrot (to
match my boyfriend's pirate costume) and an owl. I don’t want to be marked as a spoilsport. I
don’t want to ruin anyone’s fun. But, whilst October is the month of Halloween
it is also Depression awareness month, and October the 10th is World
Mental Health Day. I DO want people to remember the struggles other people
face, try to empathise and to try and change the world to make it a better place for
everyone.
If you, or anyone you know is struggling with mental health conditions, or you're struggling, don't have a diagnosis but need help, please visit your GP who will be able to advise further. There are also numerous charities/organisations out there who are available to listen if you need immediate help: see this NHS page for more information. Mental health conditions are real illnesses and you needn't be afraid to see help. You're also not alone.
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Hello again!
I’ve actually been meaning to post for a couple of weeks –
last year was hectic for a number of reasons and whilst I had hoped to continue
blogging, it definitely fell by the wayside. However, back in time for my final year at uni, I’ve already got 2
articles lined up for you: one which was meant to be a way of saying “Hello,
I’m back!” and another which is an article I’m writing for the Durham student
newspaper, Palatinate, on charitable giving (that’s another thing – I’m
diversifying from Physics – because Physicists aren’t one dimensional after all!). Look out for these in the coming weeks - fingers crossed I'm able to keep it up as I really enjoy blogging!